This happens all the time. Every car horn, every whistle, every cat call and lewd exclamation, strengthens the lesson I’ve been taught over and over and over again throughout my entire life: as a lady, my body is on public display and open for judgment—from anyone.
Most men who will see this are decent, rational guys who will sympathize with my feelings. A small, vocal handful of dudes will send me private messages about how women like me can’t “take a fucking compliment.” This is not for either of you. This is for the guys who don’t know yet that attracting unwanted attention doesn’t make women feel good, no matter how nice their intentions are. I can’t speak for everyone, but I can say that I personally get embarrassed, often scared, and always—ALWAYS—ashamed, in some way, in how I look.
So… now that you know, cut it out. Tell all the girls how nice they are and how amazing they are at their jobs instead.
this sort of thing happens to me all the time as i walk around town and it just completely bums my day.
Advice from Adventure Time (Bulletin Board)
“Dude, sucking at something is the first step to being sorta good at something”
- Jake the Dog
“I know who I am and I’ll know what I want if and when it ever comes along.”
- Fionna the Human
“This cosmic dance of bursting decadence and withheld permissions twists all our arms collectively, but if sweetness can win, and it can, then I’ll still be here tomorrow to high-five you yesterday, my friend. Peace.”
- Royal Tart Toter
“Sometimes you see things that are real, and other times it’s like crazy, crazy, crazy, in your face, all the time.”
- Ice King
“When bad things happen, I know you want to believe they are a joke, But sometimes life is scary and dark. That is why we must find the light.”
“No one flicks me in the butt without my consent.”
- Finn the Human
“People make mistakes. It’s part of growing up and you never really stop growing.”
- Duke of Nuts
“Sometimes you want someone and you want to kiss them and be with them, but you can’t because responsibility demands sacrifice.”
- Princess Bubblegum
“I pay attention to things I see you being all about.”
- Prince Gumball
“Bad biscuits make the baker broke, bro.”
- Jake the Dog
“Everything small is just a small version of something big!”
- Finn the Human
“Even if we like each other, we’re still going to hurt each other.”
- Flame Princess
i love you.
Some girl posted [on the original version of the song] that this song reminded her of her mother who had passed. I can’t even fathom the idea of that happening to someone… and coming out standing strong… That’s magical. Music, of any genre, is amazing. Especially when it can give peope—anyone—a sense of calm, resolution, peace of mind and/or purpose. Great songs are the ones that touch our souls with a single breath :)
Objetification is a two way street. I got into an argument with my modern thinking male friend about the ramifications of objectifying someone (with or without their consent and/or knowledge) and, while, he jokingly will point out that “women do it too”, I really think the question we should be asking ourselves is “WHY?”. Why is there even a need for it? Why would anyone ever think its an appropiate thing to do and why don’t we recognize it in time to stop the cycle?
And then, we got into a more intricate argument about the term “feminism”, where I pointed out that in English, as well as in Spanish (which are the two languages I have always been around of, thus feel comfortably using as examples), a lot of the language centers on attributing the masculine tense to a lot of positive things, so, in a way, (imo) that is society’s way of giving something back to the us. Like a badge to wear that says: “I believe in equality, in all words of the language I choose to associate myself with, and to prove it, I will use this word as a symbol of that fight”. To which he argued that we should just find a gender-neutral word that is all inclusive but still carries the message in a clear manner.
Alas, arguing (passively, of course) is a beautiful thing, and having people in your life that have different opinions might just help you see things in a way you night’ve never seen otherwise :)
one out of 4 men will get mad at you if you say you’re a Feminist, call you a prude bitch and stupid, say it’s useless to society. If you then try to prove them wrong with logical facts, experience, and how you developed your own opinion on why you are a feminist, then they will feel like you are attacking them.
21ish. Frequent failure at relationships and all things love-related. Cultural Anthropology enthusiast. Curses in spanish frequently. Spends way too much time Tumbling & Facebooking. Thinks Betty is better than Veronica, any day. Subscribe via RSS.